Note To Our Daughters

How can you tell if a fellow likes you or just likes himself?

1. When he takes you for a drive, does he obey the laws and drive carefully? Or does he drive fast and recklessly?

2. When you're in the car together, does he keep the radio/cd player low or off? Or does he play it very loudly?

3. Has he, or is he willing to meet your family? Or does he only see you away from home or avoids your parents or promotes sneaking?

4. Is he respectful of your family behind their backs? Or does he speak badly about them?

5. Does he care about your values and well-being? Or is he bothering you about sex?

6. Does he make sure any affectionate advances are welcomed by you comfortably? Or does he take physical liberties or coerce or harrass you into going farther than you're comfortable with?

7. Does he listen to you and respond in good conversation? Or does he ignore or berate you or just talks about himself?

8. Does he want to know more about you? Or does he not care about who you are?

9. Does he treat you well around everyone? Or does he ignore, meanfully tease, abuse or salnder you in front of others, especially his friends.

10. Does he take you to resepctful places for your dates? Or do you wind up in his bedroom, car, or party (illegal), or otherwise in a more dangerous situation?

11. Does he encourage your interests and pursuits? Or does he not care about them or require you giving up everything?

12. Does he get along respectfully with your friends? Or does he hate them without reason, or separates you from them, or flirts with them?

13. Does he have a general respect for women? Or is he into sex, porn, or male chauvanism (ie. girls are just "eye-candy.")

14. Does he try to form meaningful, steady relationships? Or does he go through lots of girlfriends?

15. Does he take good care of himself (hygiene, appearance, schoolwork, etc)? Or is he sloppy and lazy?

16. Does he at least offer to pay? Or is he a mooch?

17. Is marriage something he'd like to pursue in the future? Or is he just about now and having fun?

If you answered "yes" to any of the latter halves of these questions, then that's a BIG red flag. So many girls have their heart's broken and virtues taken by such men. Just because he's paying attention to you doesn't mean he cares about YOU. He could be just caring about himself and using you as part of the fun. Be very careful, young ladies.